You Decided to go to Therapy, Now What?

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You’ve been thinking about it for a while and now you have taken the next step and decided to begin therapy. Although this is often the most difficult step to take, more work must be done before you find the right therapist and begin your journey of reflection and self-growth.

Where do I look?

Here are several different ways to find a therapist:

  • Directories, such as Psychology Today often provide you with a detailed profile of the therapist you are considering.
  • Online Searches: Googling therapists in your area will provide you with a list of names.
  • Check out your insurance company’s website. Most insurance companies provide a listing of all the therapists in their network. If you plan on using your insurance for your sessions, this is a good way to determine who is in network.
  •  Another way to find a therapist is through word of mouth. Maybe your friend or coworker discusses the success they have experienced in therapy. You can always ask for information from other people.

Are we a good fit?

This is a very important question when beginning therapy. There are many therapists with different personalities and approaches. You want to make sure you are comfortable with your therapist. Otherwise, you will be less inclined to be open and you may not get the most out of the sessions.

Many therapists offer free consultations. These sessions are often shorter in length than a full session but allow you the opportunity to talk to the therapist without committing to a full session. Use this time to see if you feel that this is a good match.  If not, keep looking for someone you will feel more comfortable with.

If a prospective therapist does not offer a free consultation, take a look at their website or profile. This may help you get an understanding of their approach and perspective on therapy.

How do I pay?

There are many factors to consider when selecting a therapist and having knowledge about your financial responsibility is imperative. You do not want to be unprepared if you have a copay or if your therapist does not accept your insurance.

If you plan on using your health insurance for your sessions, contact the therapist first to determine if they are in network. You may also want to contact the insurance company to find out what if any portion of the payment you are responsible for. This will vary for each insurance plan and company.

If you do not have insurance or your therapist is out of network, ask about the fees per session. You may be able to have out-of-network rates paid for by the insurance company if applicable. Again, this all depends on your specific insurance plan. Contact your insurance company for detailed information about your mental health benefits before scheduling an appointment.

What can I expect during my first session?

 You have your financial responsibility for your session sorted out. You found the therapist you want to see. You scheduled your first appointment. Now what?

The first session is an opportunity for both the client and therapist to get to know each other. Oftentimes, an assessment may be conducted to determine the presenting problem. Many questions will be asked to help gain insight into your history and goals for therapy. Each session will build on the previous session. You are now on your way to self-reflection and growth.

One last thing…

Be proud of yourself for embarking on this courageous journey. It is not always an easy decision to make to begin therapy. For many, starting the process is the most difficult part of the journey. Therapy should help you look at yourself from a different lens with a therapist who is there to guide and support you on your journey of self-discovery.

The Power of Mindset: 10 Ways to Change Your Mindset and Add Motivation, Positivity, and Growth to Your Life

Written by: Tracy Wrocklage

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Do you see the glass as half empty or half full? Do you view life as difficult and unfair, or do you see life as an opportunity for self-growth and exploration? Mindset is how you view the world around you. It is also how you view yourself. Do you have a positive mindset about your abilities and skills to achieve your goals or do you feel as though you are not good enough and do not measure up to others? This is your mindset.

The positive thing about your mindset is that you can change it. If you realize you have a negative mindset about your ability to be successful at your job, you can change that. The truth is, mindset plays a major role in how you live your life and if you aren’t exactly pleased with how it’s been going, you can do something about it. As Carol Dweck, the author of “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success” states, “We like to think of our champions and idols as superheroes who were born different from us. We don’t like to think of them as ordinary people who made themselves extraordinary”.

Here are 10 ways to change your mindset to help you feel more motivated, positive, and empowered:

  1. Practice Gratitude Often

Focusing on the things you are grateful for in your life is one of the quickest ways to change your mindset. You will suddenly realize there are many things to be grateful for. Gratitude helps us feel as though we have enough in life and are not lacking or not good enough. Keeping a gratitude journal is an easy way to practice gratitude daily. Each night, write down a few things you are grateful for. You will feel better instantly and in the long run, it will have a positive impact on your mindset.

2. Practice Self-Awareness

Check in with yourself often to bring awareness to your thoughts and emotions. Thoughts and emotions can be so automatic that oftentimes, we feel as though we are on autopilot. Take a few moments throughout the day to gauge your thoughts and feelings. Are you feeling positive and motivated or are you feeling down and stressed? This is a helpful way to monitor when your mindset could use some readjusting.

3. Journal

Journaling is an excellent tool to help with self-awareness. Set aside a few minutes daily to journal. This will help bring awareness to your thoughts and emotions. It may even help uncover thoughts and feelings you may have buried deep inside. Releasing these pent-up thoughts and emotions can help make room for a more positive mindset. Let go of the old thoughts that are holding you back.

4. Identify Limiting Beliefs and Challenge Them

This one is closely connected with journaling. Identifying the negative core beliefs that are holding you back is essential to changing your mindset. Through journaling, your core beliefs can become clearer. What are those thoughts that negatively impact your mindset? Once you discover what limiting beliefs are impacting your mindset, challenge them. Look for evidence that shows those thoughts are false and there is no basis of truth in them. If you feel you aren’t good enough, by challenging these beliefs you can change your mindset. Believe you are good enough and you can accomplish your goals.

5. View Experiences as Opportunities to Learn and Grow

We all experience difficult times. Mindset can play a major role in the ways these difficult times impact you. Try shifting your perspective in challenging times. Rather than viewing it as a negative time, try to view it as an opportunity to learn and grow. Challenge yourself to try to see times of great difficulty as a time to grow and step outside of your comfort zone.

6. Practice Self-Care

Take time to be kind to yourself. We often overload ourselves with expectations and responsibilities without giving ourselves a break. Taking time for self-care is a way to shift your mindset. By giving yourself time for something you enjoy, you will have a more positive outlook on life.

7. Use Positive Affirmations to Shift Your Perspective

Affirmations are mantras that you repeat either out loud or in your mind. They are positive and affirm a statement that you want to be true. You speak it as though it has already taken place. Affirmations will shift your mindset and help you feel more empowered and positive.

8. Embrace Your Imperfections

Bring awareness to your inner voice. Are you kind to yourself or are you mean and overbearing? Try embracing yourself, imperfections and all. This changes your mindset by positively viewing yourself rather than beating yourself up. Your mindset will become more positive when you accept yourself, your flaws, and all.

9. Meditation

Changing your mindset is just one of the many benefits of meditation. Meditation can change the way you view the world around you as well as the way you view yourself. Try shifting your mindset and becoming more empowered and mindful through meditation.

10. Look for the Positives

This one does not apply to every situation. Yes, there are times when it is not possible (nor appropriate) to look for the positives. I am not talking about those circumstances for this one. Try to find the positives in moments when your initial response would be negative. For example, you went on an interview for a job you wanted. A few weeks later, you find out they hired someone else. Yes, this can be difficult and stir up some negative thoughts and emotions. Allow yourself to feel those emotions but then try to find the positive. Perhaps the commute to the job would have been much farther than your current commute and it would take time away from being with your family or maybe that made room for an even better opportunity to arise. Looking for the positives can shift your mindset to one of hope and positivity. These are 10 ways to change your mindset. Try the ones that resonate with you the most. Changing your mindset is a process and takes time. Be patient with yourself and celebrate your wins along the